Showing posts with label Bullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Bullying. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Walk up or Walk out? – Try Both, and also Back Off!





While it is true that we can do both, Walk up and Walk out, walking up could do unintended damage to certain types of students.  Not all loners are lonely.  Some introverts prefer to bask in their solitude and don’t like self-inviting extraverts to intrude on their solace with the assumption that everyone likes company.  It’s better to first check if that person wants to be approached, rather than interrupt their contemplation on the multiverse with questions like, “Did you see that episode of the Walking Dead?”  Ask first if they are busy.

Walking up would not have worked on previous school shooters like Cho Seung Hui and Adam Lanza.  Cho could hardly talk, and at Virginia Tech, he rejected people trying to socialize with him.  Lanza had Sensory Integration Disorder, and also scarcely spoke.  A very patient high school teacher tried to warm up to Lanza, sitting next to him in Tech Club by taking a gradual, non-forceful approach to socializing.  It did not make the future school shooter into a kinder soul.

Instead of forcing ourselves to fake kindness, we should learn to abstain from emotional cruelty.  If you don’t need to say something rude, you don’t have to.  A bully may want to be mean, but there is no need.  Cruelty is one less thing to do.  We need to learn to back off, and use school for its intended purpose – to learn.  Likewise, we need to go to work for its intended purpose – to do our jobs.  If we focus, we can achieve.  If we harm, we are taking away someone’s focus from their goals, and doing the same to ourselves.

I remember in class that Thomas Hobbes believed we were nice out of fear.  In the late 1500s-early 1600s, murder was harder to solve before forensic technology developed.  People had to be nice or else the recipient could commit murder and get away with it.  Now that we have DNA fingerprinting and a plethora of methods for investigating homicide, people are free to be verbally sadistic without fear of murder until a rising trend of massacres.  Mass murderers are willing to die for their crimes.  Infamy may be damning, but it can be immortalizing.

It says something about our society if we need guns pointed at us to improve our moral character.  We don’t need to pretend to be nice to prevent atrocities.  The pretentiousness is emotionally dishonest.  We need to stop laughing and start thinking, meaning stop laughing at others and start thinking of others.  We need to back off and stop angering people to the point of wanting to shoot us.  Yet some people will be incensed by anything, so let’s take away their military weapons, because a school is not supposed to be a war zone.


©2018 Caroline Friehs

Originally posted on March 21, 2018




References:

Friehs, C (2015).  Bullying is Russian Roulette with the Student Body – Examining the Precursors to Five School Shootings in America.  Publication:  September 30, 2015; Amazon KDP.  Available from:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B015Z9FNFC?*Version*=1&*entries*=0

Gill, J.H. & Rader, M (1995).  The Enduring Questions – Traditional and Contemporary Voices.  6th Ed.  Publisher:  Harcourt Brace College Publishers.  6277 Sea Harbor Drive  Orlando, FL  32887-6777.  [Ch.22, p.495].

Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy (2014 Feb 25).  Hobbes Moral and Political Philosophy.  [Point 6].  Retrieved from:  https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/hobbes-moral/



Header photo:  Credited from the associated press of FullAct.com.
 

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Bigotry Based Bullying - Examining Five Cases Where Autistic Teenage Boys Were Victimized


Introduction

                After reading the recent ice bucket prank incident, I noticed a trend in bullying situations where autistic teenage boys were targeted.  The following episodes are within the past year and there was a pattern in the criminals’ behaviors.  All perpetrators videotaped their own evidence, thus self-incriminating.  None of the perpetrators were charged with hate crime, however every victim was targeted for their autism, or the aggressor was aware of the victim’s mental differences. 

                The following section describes each of the five cases.  Then attributes of these cases are collated into two tables in the analysis section.

Case 1:  Bay Village, Ohio; September 2014

                Bullies coaxed a 15-year-old boy with autism to participate in the “Ice Bucket Challenge” for raising awareness to ALS.  They had him strip down to his boxer shorts, and stand in front of a garage.  Instead of ice water, the perpetrators poured a bucket of urine, feces, spit, and cigarette butts onto him.  They had videotaped it with the victim’s phone and uploaded it to Instagram. 

                 Aftermath:  The bullies are under investigation.  The victim approves of having the video online to raise awareness of bullying children of special needs.


Case 2:  Okeechobee, Florida; August 2014

                Aaron Hill, age 16, was invited to a party where an adult, Evadean Lydecker, gave the teens alcohol.  Hill felt sick from drinking whiskey and needed to lie down.  When he woke, he was ordered to go outside and fight.  Hill was unwilling.  Then, one of the other teens, Andrew Wheeler, age 18, came inside and started beating, kicking him and knocking his head into the wall.  He also dragged him across the floor by his hair.  Hill was curled up on the floor, protecting his head, and screaming.  This segment of the conflict was recorded on a partier’s phone.  The other partiers witnessed and laughed at the victim.  The adult, Lydecker, was outside, and refused to intervene because she believed Hill deserved it.

                After the infamous video clip ended, Wheeler forced Hill outside and choked him till unconsciousness.  The police found Hill lying in the middle of the road.  He told them he had been beaten and forced to walk to his current resting place.

                Wheeler was proud enough to post the video on his Facebook account, and the video went viral, causing public moral outrage.  The police found it during their investigation.

                 Aftermath:  In an interview with police, Wheeler claims Hill was fighting the girls, refusing to leave, and that Hill tried to punch him.  He said he wanted to record the incident, and that it only showed the latter half of the conflict.  This is not worth believing.  With Hill on the ground, crying, it is not plausible that he just instigated a fight.  If Wheeler wanted to record evidence of himself being victimized, he would have waited for Hill to supposedly try hitting him again.  He was not trying to catch someone in the act of violence.  He wanted to record his own violence, a one-sided fight with an autistic boy.  Then he uploaded it on Facebook, which only further showed he was proud of his actions.
                Wheeler also claimed he was going to drive Hill home.  Apparently strangling him and leaving him unconscious in the middle of the street was “driving him home.”  Wheeler had been called to come to the house and drive Hill home, or was this a preconceived excuse to cover the other possible reason they called Wheeler, to beat up the kid?  Hill denied Wheeler’s claims against him.
               Wheeler was charged with Child Abuse Without Great Bodily Harm, and Lydecker was charged with corrupting minors.  Even if Hill really did get aggressive and black out, he was under the influence of alcohol provided by Lydecker.  If Lydecker never gave the teens alcohol, this situation could have been avoided.

Hate Crime or not a Hate Crime?
                                Wheeler’s story sounds like a conflict unrelated to Hill’s condition, but it is in Wheeler’s best interest not to admit to hate crime, which would give him more years in prison.  However, how did the internet know the victim was autistic?  Did Wheeler label the video that way, or did someone else disclose that information?  One girl in the background called Hill a baby for crying.  Wheeler uploaded a one-sided fight more likely to impress his peers with his so-called fighting ability, rather than promoting awareness to the conflict that supposedly occurred.  His video seems to be an expression of arrogance; domination over a perceptively weak male.  Although, Wheeler never slurs “retard” or any suggestive epitaph, part of his pride is in fighting someone who is disadvantaged, literally on the floor.  Would he do this to someone without special needs?  At this point, it is unknown.

Case 3:  Columbus, Georgia; August 2014

                Four gang members attacked a 17-year-old boy who went to their high school, with full knowledge that he had a disorder.  Jarvis Tatum, Saul Jackson, another juvenile, and another member called, “Junior,” forced the victim on all-fours in the middle of a basketball court in a park.  They kicked him until blood came from his mouth.  Then the thugs took his wallet, cellphone, and his clothes.  They had stripped him down to his boxers, and left the victim to walk home in that state.  One of the gang members video recorded the entire incident and uploaded it onto Facebook, which was anonymously reported, leading to Tatum, Jackson, and an unnamed juvenile’s arrest.  Junior was still to be apprehended.


Case 4:  Southern Maryland, March 2014

                 Two girls, age 17 and 15, forced their 16-year-old autistic classmate to do sexual acts with their dog.  They threatened him with a knife to his throat, kicked him in the groin, and dragged him across the floor by his hair.  They eventually took him to a nearby pond, and forced him to walk on the icy pond.  He fell through the ice, and the girls did not help him out.  They videotaped the whole exploit.

                The victim was noticeably autistic, and his parents told the police he had “diminished mental capacity.”  There was no way the perpetrators did not know.  Lauren Bush, 17, and the other juvenile had previous abused the victim on a number of occasions.  The autistic boy did not understand that they intended ill will to him, and perceived the girls as friends.  They took advantage of his poor judgment in character and continued harming him until this incident.

                Aftermath:  Lauren Bush was charged as an adult for first and second degree assault, false imprisonment, and solicitation for child pornography.  The other juvenile was charged with same offenses and referred to the State Department for Juvenile Services.


Case 5:  Melcher, Iowa; November 2013

                 Levi Null, a 13-year-old boy with Asperger’s, was physically and verbally abused in a video recorded by his bullies at Melcher-Dallas High School.  The video was uploaded online, and it showed Null being taunted over his condition and punched in the face.  The teachers seemed careless for letting the bullying happen.

                Aftermath:  This story is televised on the news, and numerous parents react online to defend the bullies.  The bullies were disciplined at school, the video was eventually deleted, but the principal, Josh Ehn, did not believe that any bullying took place in the video.  He also said that it’s the students’ responsibility to resolve bullying issues.  That explains why the teachers turned a blind eye.
                The parents and legal guardians of the bullies supported the cruelty.  Levi Weatherly, one of the bullies’ parents, stated, “I would say three-fourths of this stuff he brings on himself and probably a fourth of it is bullying that shouldn’t be going on.”  Jamie Harrison, the uncle of the physical abuser, was proud that his nephew punched Null for calling him a “nasty name.”  It’s not an eye-for-an-eye.  It’s a punch for a word!

Analysis

Before examining the incidents, it is important to understand the socio-economic surroundings for each case; Table 1.  In Table 2, the incident information is collated to enable visual comparison.

Table 1











                Each incident happened in a different state in America; Ohio, Iowa, Maryland, Georgia, and Florida.  Bullying that targets special needs children is widespread, whether it’s in Southern states, the Midwest, or the East coast.  Most of the locations were middle class suburbs with relatively low crime rates.  Columbus, Georgia is an exception, since it is a large city with high crime rates.  The perpetrators were not only the victim’s classmates, but they represented a gang, calling themselves, “The Street Celebrities.” 

Table 2






                These incidents are fairly recent despite anti-bullying programs.  This trend could be a direct reaction to society’s anti-bullying attitudes, or indifference to what society thinks.  The former implies rebelling against the progressive ideal, and the latter implies that anti-bullying programs have been ineffective.

                All the victims were males between ages 13-17 who had some form of autism.  Since these disorders are scaled in a spectrum, not every person’s autism is alike.  Some were low functioning enough that their condition was noticeable, but a student’s Asperger’s was still known to his harassers regardless of how high functioning he was. 

The perpetrators were teenage classmates or grown adults.  Despite age, they all had one common attribute, pride.  Their pride led to their self-incrimination by providing their own video evidence.  They were proud of their actions enough to video tape themselves committing the crime, and then to show it off to the world, thinking people would be impressed.  The perpetrators were unaware of the possibility of public outrage.  Since parents in the Melcher, Iowa case reacted in favor of the aggressors, there are probably more people with that mentality.  In a society that has people exhibiting victim blaming, bully coddling, and the attitude about a “generation of wimps,” it is feasible a significant portion would favor the bully’s brutality against the weak and innocent; thinking humiliation is humor.  Each aggressor viewed their victim as inferior, unmanly, stupid, and/or deserving of their abuse.  Part of why males seem to be the targets, among these cases, is because the victim is regarded as less masculine for not being brutal or fitting a negative male stereotype.  The other possibility is that all the victims had good grades, which may have induced the jealousy of their harassers.  Null had to have skipped a grade level to attend high school at age 13.

Lauren Bush and her juvenile accomplice were the only abusers not to upload their content online, possibly.  The police could not find their video anywhere on the internet.  Perhaps they were being less proud and slyer than the other criminals who had no discretion and no foresight to public reaction.

Focusing on the types of abuse, all incidents involved mental, psychological abuse, since degradation and international exposure were integral to the victimization.  Most of the victims were physically abused; punched, kicked, hair pulled; slammed into a wall.  The Bay Village, Ohio boy endured a physical level of humiliation because it involved the bodily fluids physically covering his whole body and potentially causing medical harm.  This physical abuse does not hurt in the way as getting punched, but the urine and feces could have flooded his eyes and mouth.  This could have induced his body to vomit the fluids foreign to his own body.  Imagine your stomach vomiting someone else’s urine and fecal matter!  It’s not so funny anymore, is it?

Lauren Bush and her accomplice were also very sadistic since their crimes were sexually abusive in nature.  They sexually victimized an autistic person and their dog.  By forcing their autistic peer to perform lewd acts with their dog on tape, they were creating child and animal pornography.  They were willfully harming a disabled child and their own pet.  Moreover, if the victim could not emerge from the ice pond, he could have died from hypothermia.  Without any help in getting out of the ice rink, he was forced to rely solely on his own ability.

In both the Iowa and the Florida cases, adults present were neglectful.  In Georgia, adults at a back to school event noticed the victim walking home in his forced half nakedness, but did not contact police.  Besides that, the gang was isolated with their victim like the Maryland and Ohio cases.

Every perpetrator was sanctioned in some way.  Most were either charged or charges were pending.  The only ones who did not receive any legal consequences were the Iowa teens who punched their classmate.  The discipline was internal to the school.  The other consequence is the backlash of the media and the public.  Videos angered the masses.  Incidents were aired on the news.  Although the Iowa case was positively received by pro-bully parents, the majority of America’s public disagrees with the abuse.  America’s angry reaction to bullying signifies that there is hope for the future in reducing this harmful behavior.

©2014 Caroline Friehs

Originally Posted:  8/10/2014




References

Advameg, Inc (2014).  City-Data.com.  [Website].  Retrieved from:  http://www.city-data.com/

Advameg, Inc (2014).  City-Data.com.  Crime Rate in Columbus, Georgia.  [Web page].  Retrieved from:  http://www.city-data.com/crime/crime-Columbus-Georgia.html

Associated Press (2014 Mar. 12).  Two Maryland teen girls bullied apparent autistic boy, authorities say.  FoxNews.com.  Retrieved from:  http://www.foxnews.com/us/2014/03/12/two-maryland-teen-girls-bullied-apparent-autistic-boy-authorities-say/

Cush, A (2014 Sep. 4).  Bullies Dump Feces, Urine, on Autistic Boy in Evil Ice Bucket “Prank.”  Gawker.com.  Retrieved from:  http://gawker.com/bullies-dump-feces-urine-on-autistic-boy-in-evil-ice-b-1630536729

McCormack, S (2014 Aug. 16).  Teen Arrested After Video Of Him Beating Boy With Autism Goes Viral: Cops (Graphic Video).  Huff Post – Crime.  Retrieved from:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/16/teen-arrested-beating-autism-syndrome_n_5682693.html

Osborne, T (2014 Sep. 5).  Bullies Accused Of Dousing Autistic Teen With Bodily Fluids And Feces In Sick “Ice Bucket Challenge” Prank.  Investigation Discovery – Crime Feed.  Retrieved from:  http://crimefeed.com/2014/09/juveniles-use-ice-bucket-challenge-pull-sick-move-autistic-teen/

Pfeiffer, E (2013 Nov. 20).  Iowa parents defending bullying of autistic teen.  Yahoo News.  Retrieved from:  http://news.yahoo.com/iowa-town-defends-bullying-of-autistic-teen-203249332.html

Renzulli, D (2014 Aug. 16).  Autistic teen beaten, robbed, and stripped of clothes at park.  WTVM.com.  Retrieved from:  http://www.wtvm.com/story/26286358/autistic-teen-beaten-robbed-and-stripped-of-clothes-at-park

Rosin, H (2014 Mar. 14).  Sadistic Girls Bully Autistic Boy.  Boy Still Considers Them His Friends.  Slate.com.  Retrieved from:  http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2014/03/14/autistic_boy_abused_in_maryland_why_did_he_think_his_bullies_were_his_friends.html

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Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Bystanders’ Roles in Witnessing Bullying and Violent Crime



 
The link above shows a video taped study conducted by college students, showing people’s reactions to bullying.  The camera person hid while two students conducted a mock-bullying situation right in front of people.  They repeated their experiment in different locations on school campus, drawing varying reactions.  Out of all the bystanders, five advocated, 17 were passive or careless, and one person was hesitant but wanted to help. 




In the video from the previous blog entry, Jean Kilbourne said that objectification is the first step in justifying violence toward another person.  The same is done with black people, gay people, and other people who historically have been dehumanized.  Bullying victims are almost always dehumanized.  The unidentified students portrayed archetypical stereotyped roles in bullying scenarios.  The fake-bully, who looked like a “homeboy” type, was physically abusing the nerd-victim into writing his paper for him.  He literally treated him like he was a broken vending machine for homework assignments.  The bully demonstrated objectification of a human being.


Most of the people witnessing the twisted treatment ignored the abuse.  People who were walking, kept walking.  People sitting even stood up and walked away.  My addition to Jean Kilbourne’s point is it is possible for people to objectify themselves.  They were not helping.  They functioned like ants filing toward a colony.  Are ants living things?  Yes, but they are not human, therefore from the victim’s perspective (and probably the aggressor’s too) they have dehumanized themselves.  They might as well be marching robots.


If the victim is objectified long term; dehumanized from the rest of the self-dehumanizing population, the victim’s mental state may change in a way that he/she does not feel as responsible for his/her actions.  The person long deprived of feeling equal, may feel in future conflicts after snapping or transferring the violent behavior that, “You caused me to react that way,” “I had no other choice,” “I had to do this,” and quoting Cho Seung Hui, the Virginia Tech shooter, “You made me do this!”


Bullying and Bystander Maltreatment are precursors to school shootings, as I will demonstrate in my upcoming presentation on this subject.  Bullying is more obvious, but bystander maltreatment encourages the continuation of abuse.  People can either be complicit or cruel and heckling.  No one in the video was making rude comments or cheering the aggressor.  They were complicit, passively allowing it to happen.  Toward the end of the video the message reads, “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.”  The victim gets the impression that people do not care.  If the abuse starts in childhood, then the bystanders dehumanize themselves earlier, while the victim is stripped of dignity.  The result is that all parties eventually become objectified.  Because the dehumanization is in the long term, the ideas become deeply ingrained in the person.  The angry victim is like boiling water.  The water is blamed by society for boiling, rather than the source of the heat.  The water has no other choice than to boil.  The shooter can not see another choice than revenge.  If people objectify themselves, then they become plastic ducks in a shooting gallery.  It does not feel wrong to poke bullet holes in them, and they aren’t even real ducks, just plastic.

 
So why do people volunteer themselves to fade into the background scenery?  In the video, the third passive witness later said “I didn’t want to get into any trouble.”  The one person who was in-between on reacting said, “I was going to jump in and do something if you continued.”  I give that guy credit.  He stopped and watched, but he hesitated.  He wanted to take action, but did not know how to go about it.

 
That is the main problem facing bystanders when witnessing crimes.  “I didn’t want to get into any trouble,” sounds lame because he was not the criminal, but he may be legally penalized if he engaged in the public fight and was then accused of assault.  Other than that, people are afraid of “getting into trouble” with the bully, because they don’t want to fight.  Here is a list of potential reasons why bystanders “mind their own business.”

 
Passive Bystanders’ Reasons

      1.      They are afraid the bully will fight them.
      2.      They do not know the whole situation, so they don’t want to judge.
      3.      They have some place to go, and they do not have the time to stop. 
             (Newton’s Law:  An object in motion tends to stay in motion.)
      4.      There are more people around.  Maybe someone else will handle the situation. 
            (With more people, the responsibility is shared.)
      5.      Misunderstanding:
                a.       The reckless behavior is mutual.
                b.      The victim did something to anger the aggressor.
                c.       They are in a group project, and one member is not doing his share.
      6.      Maybe they will resolve everything on their own in a few minutes.

 

There was only one person who reacted but was hesitant.  In real life, there are more people like this.  I believe these are possible reasons for the behaviors of the on-the-fence, frozen advocates.

 
Hesitant Bystanders’ Reasons

  1. I don’t want that bully to hurt me too.
  2. I want to help, but I don’t know how.
  3. I can’t speak.  My mouth is gaping and no words seem to come.  I’m shocked.
  4. I am observing.  I do care.
  5. Should I call the police?  Will they take me seriously?  What if they leave before the police arrive?
  6. I want to stop the aggressor, but I don’t know how to fight; self-defense.
  7. I am physically disadvantaged to the aggressor.  I’m smaller or weaker.
  8. I don’t know exactly what is going on.  I want to make a proper judgment.
  9. Someone you are with discourages you from helping.


How many of these apply to you?  Have you ever witnessed a crime and played the role of the hesitant or complicit bystander?  After reading this, I hope if you were complicit that you changed your attitudes toward your role as a crime witness.  If you were hesitant, or if you were complicit with a change of heart, here are some tips on being more assertive in bullying and other criminal situations.

Assertive Bystanders

  1. Tell someone nearby about this.
  2. Call the police or security.
  3. Record the scene on your phone, and report it as evidence.
  4. From a safe distance, yell at the aggressor to stop!
  5. If someone discourages you, telling you to mind your own business, then tell them you are doing the right thing.
  6. If the attacker approaches you, try to negotiate.  Keep your distance.
  7. If the attacker tries to attack you, make a scene.  Now two people are screaming for help.  When the police arrive, it will be harder for the attacker to play innocent.


The last two are pretty gutsy.  If you are timid, stick with the first four.  Don’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, though that is why bystanders are mostly passive to begin with.  Helping out someone in need is a way to reconnect with a world of strangers surrounding us.  By doing something about bullying or any kind of victimization, you are bringing more peace into the environment by diffusing a something chaotic.  You could easily be victimized of a violent crime on another day.  We are equally human, not objects.


©2014 Caroline Friehs


References

FouseyTube (2013).  The Bullying Social Experiment – Please Watch.  [Courtesy of:  R.I.P. Amanda Todd – a Facebook Page.]  Runtime: 4:52.  Retrieved from:  https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=790590087621312&set=vb.567254213288235&type=3&theater